Last Updated: November 14, 2021, 11:11 am

OPINION | College students should live together before marriage


Marriage is a big commitment and doesn’t have to be the deciding factor for when to move in together as a couple. Writer Izzy Johnson shares her opinion on why couples should make the decision to move in together before getting married. Graphic by Hannah Hickman.

There is no better way to truly get to know someone then by living with them.

College students have been told living with someone is extremely different than just being friends with them.

College is a great time to learn more about yourself, and living with roommates can help you to learn personality traits you love versus traits you can’t stand. This is a prime example of why couples should live together before marriage.

Despite what some faiths believe, living together before marriage has become much more common in today’s society and has proven to have benefits.

According to BRIDES, “Nowadays, however, it seems that it’s taboo if a couple doesn’t live together before walking down the aisle.”

Getting married is a huge life change. The thought of learning how to completely share your life with someone else can seem overwhelming and stressful.

Living with someone before marriage can help to ease some of the stress if the couple ends up getting married because they have already experienced this form of life together.

Living expenses are also reduced when living with someone else. If you move in with your significant other before marriage, this can help to ease your financial load.

This can also help you and your significant other to develop a new form of reliance on each other. Sharing expenses will require you to depend on each other to do your share. Couples are often already reliant on each other, but when living together it creates a new form of dependency.

Living together before getting married can help the couple save money to later spend on their wedding. Paying for a wedding can cause strain on a relationship because it is such a big expense. The average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is about $27,698.

According to I Will Teach You To Be Rich, “If you want to pay for the whole wedding yourself (a totally achievable goal), you’ll have to save about $8,000 a year or $666 a month for the wedding.”

Living with your significant other can help you to develop a deeper connection and increased communication with your partner.

When you are living with someone else, you get to know their annoying little habits and they get to know yours. Living with your significant other before marriage can allow you to work out any conflicting habits before taking the next step.

It is important to live with someone before getting married because then you know them in entirety. Living together before marriage can help prevent frustrating surprises down the road.

Working out these issues before marriage is great because if the conflicts can’t be resolved, then you don’t have to go through the long divorce process.

According to the New York Post, “Whether they did their most recent move themselves or hired a moving service, 45 percent of respondents said moving is by far the most stressful event in life.”

If you and your significant other are able to move in together then you have most likely survived one of the more stressful moments in your relationship.

Living with your significant other before marriage can help you in the long run decide if you are good for each other. Couples should try living together before deciding to get married in order to save stress, money and conflicts in the future.